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Odette

I know a couple in a somewhat obviously physically abusive marriage. Everyone who knows them, knows, because the wife has had some visible injuries, and we see how he treats her in public. She told me, "I don't fight back or even scream; I just lay quietly until he is finished beating me."The irony is, the wife is a good two inches taller than her husband. He weighs more than her, but she looks like she could take him out.Honestly, why wouldn't she fight back?????

KnowItAll

She should.

polliwog

She might have been abused by parents or family members and still feels like the small girl when her husband gets angry. It's a mindset that can be overcome with work though.

RebeccaW

Because she has been psychologically beaten down and does not consider fighting back. He has convinced her that she deserves this. Until she can find the strength to fight that mental process, she will remain a victim.

roger

Assuming this is even true, someone should notify authorities.

man

She ought to whoop him so hard his @$$ falls off

SonChichi

So, because she's taller, she's stronger? Hm, no, I'm pretty sure it doesn't work that way.I don't know why she wouldn't bother to hit him back, either, but when I've talked to abused women, they say that it's different when you're in the situation and you don't react the way that you think you would. Thankfully, I've never had the chance to find out what they mean. I hope your friend gets help, and soon.

Possy

cos he stockholmed her...

chocolate1212

Maybe because she loves him. I know it's weird to love someone who beats you, but maybe she does. Maybe she thinks she deserves to be beaten, like he probably told her. Maybe she doesn't believe in fighting, even though he beats her often.

darkeyes

Just because someone looks like they have the ability to fight back, doesn't mean they actually do have the ability.

yudel

http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm

SamJS2109

why doesn't she not fight back, but buy a gun and blow his head off. I hate people who hit women.

iceman

Uh... sorry, but its rare that a women is stronger then her husband physically.They could be bigger, but men are blessed with more natural stength and bigger, stronger bones. Sylvester Stallone is like 5'7. So I suppose women 5'9 and over could beat him up.. right?

Poo

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aolxflu7fo5fCMsMmqVaifXsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20090616075234AAHxZGz

LouiseC

The fact that she is taller than him doesn't necessarily mean she is stronger. Most men have a lot more upper body strenght than most women, and that's where it counts when it comes to hitting.Really, if this woman does not want to leave her husband, there probably isn't much you can do about it. It's up to her to take the initiative. You might try suggesting to her that she doesn't have to put up with being treated like that, but if she is determined to stay with him, that's up to her. You could also try telling him what a jerk you think he is, but make sure you have backup when you do that.

Treffy

Some people are just passive. Look up some fights between females on youtube or other sites. Often, one of the combatants stops fighting and just lets the other beat on them. It's saying, "look, I'm not fighting you, I'm not a threat in any way so stop."

dddd2776

I have no idea. I have a friend that used to be in a relationship like this. He was a scrawny little guy and she was bigger than he was. I know she could knock him across the room if she wanted to. She didn't and just took the abuse from him. I could never understand it. I would have done it for her, but she didn't want me to get involved. He knew not to do this in front of me because I would have jumped all over him. I sure wouldn't take it from my husband and he is twice my size. He knows I will stand up for myself and fight back. I may not win, but I will sure leave my mark for him to remember.